*Photo credited to ValentinaKallias of deviantart.
A discussion between two married man and a single man took place while they were on duty. They were discussing and asking whether looking at another woman is already a sin in the bible. Isn’t it wrong to admire and just to look at other woman when you are married? I began to think and remembered what I read in the bible about adultery. Jesus said in Matthew 5:28, “Anyone who looks at a woman with the intentions of possessing her has in fact already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Therefore I conclude that fantasizing is in fact a form of adultery but just merely looking at other woman without any intentions of possessing nor fantasizing is just fine. Fantasizing can lead to increase dissatisfaction to your wife which may lead to harming your marriage.
First let me say I really enjoy your blog. On this topic I think that just looking, fantasizing or even looking at someone of the opposite sex while married is not adultery. If you listen to the Bible and truly believe in that statement then everyone who is married has committed adultery. It is just not realistic to take that statement as law, in my opinion. If you cheat on your spouse by having a romantic relationship with someone else, then yes, it is cheating. I am a non-practicing Catholic who has read parts of the Bible and have to say that its just not realistic to live according to the bible.
We must not forget that “God’s standards are higher than us.” If we say that merely looking at a woman with the intentions of possessing her is already a sin at God’s eyes is not realistic, then we are exactly wrong. Remember that the true meaning of sin is not able to reach the standards of God. God is our Creator and we are just his creations.
I 100% agree with this statement. When I found out my future husband was looking at images that would turn your face red, I was crushed. All I could think was “what’s wrong with me”. It led to a lot of doubt, and a very hard road for quite a long time. The pain still has not completely faded. I know from experience that it is wrong and it feels like I was cheated on. My heart knows what is right and wrong.