Category: life issues

Mar 01

No Matter How Good You Try To Be To Others, You Will Occasionally Hurt Them

There’s truth to the saying that you just cannot please everybody. It’s either you dwell into it or just accept that fact. It all boils down to differences in our personality and interests. And no matter how good you are with everyone, there will always come a time that you see yourself hurting others, be it consciously or unconsciously.

No fret. It’s part of life. Forgive yourself from hurting others and forgive others for hurting you. That way, you’ll be happier and more peaceful with yourself. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. Learn from every experiences that comes your way and don’t forget to have fun. Prayer always make wonders.

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Feb 08

The Importance of Controlling One’s Temper

Here’s one note I found on facebook. It’s a short story about anger and the importance of controlling one’s temper. Verbal wounds really are much painful than physical one. The scar it left will forever remain in our hearts. Jesus even stated in the book of Ephesians 4:26-27, “Be angry but do not sin: do not let your anger last until the end of the day, lest you give the devil a foothold.” Let us learn to control our temper, since anger may lead us to hurting others and committing sin.

Nail In The Fence

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.
When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.
A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us.

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Sep 18

Minding Your Own Business

It is rude for people to meddle with other couple’s problems, especially when it is about the couple’s relationship. Confidants neither don’t have the right to meddle and to criticize the other party on why the relationship didn’t work. Friends are there to listen and not to judge.

There is this girl who has a romantic interest in a particular guy. This guy got hurt from his long time girlfriend and seeks comfort and shares his concerns with this girl friend. The girl friend knew all about the couple’s problem. The girlfriend on the other hand, tried hard to reconcile with the guy even if it meant being desperate and low. After several months, even after the break up, the ex couple still remained their lines of communication open. This got the girl friend pissed and started making personal attacks on the ex girlfriend online.

With the scenario above, does the girl friend had any right to meddle with the ex couple’s problem? Whatever problem this couple had, she should stay away from it. She doesn’t have any right or whatsoever to judge the ex girlfriend, or to even annoy her  and make her jealous because in the first place, the girl friend never had him as her boyfriend.

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Aug 24

The Art of Letting Go

Letting_Go_by_TheMadScientist

Everybody says around you that you have to let go to safeguard yourself from further pain. But the truth is, it’s hard to let go. Though our mind tells us to, but our heart still holds on. It would really take time for acceptance that things has changed and that it’s time to let go. So here’s a meaningful message about letting go I read online. I hope this would enlighten each and everyone of us.

Letting go is a subject all of us want to deny talking about. Nobody with a sound judgment likes to have all the days work listening to some depressing story.

Yet one has to view that it’s a way of refreshing a battered core that in many ways may have reach a threshold of defiance.

Every reason can be put to challenge as you go to this process.
The head may be too reasonable to appreciate it, but the heart takes all the gamble in reasoning. Which put us to some perspective that the mind cannot choose what the heart wants to feel.

If this happen then letting go has its dilemma for one very simple reason! HOPE. The hoping part is the one killing all romantics. Loving without hoping is dull.

It’s by far the most powerful tool Pandora’s box have unleash to all would-be lovers.It illuminates a dark pathway of opportunities , with so much extended questions.

There will always be a big gap that cannot be undone. The aches that comes with it, and the effort of holding on to it. The big question arises if one is ready to give up.

Pretty sure letting go is never easy, it takes courage and an unbelievable amount of sacrifice.Knowing that after doing it, you’ll probably hurt yourself more and at the same time the gift of healing by the advances you may gain.

It’s a matter of choice..of weighing the consequences and with this realization comes another level of maturity.There is a time for everything, and letting go has its own duration.The art of letting go is simply a matter of choice and emerging from the experience though maybe broken, BUT full of undying hope and picking up the lessons learned.
It is a constant cycle evolving due to different circumstances that comes with every single human being .

With every pain you are being put into a corner wherein you cannot seem to find an exit, and once you do, you let go. tears, sadness and heart aches in the meantime.

And when you are ready, you embrace the future and look forward to a new beginning.

*Photo credit to TheMadScientist of deviantart.

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Aug 02

It’s Easy to Feel Jealous


I was struck with my facebook friend’s status on why Trust is just too hard to give while jealousy is too easy to feel. It does makes sense. It is hard to give our trust again and we prevent ourselves from doing so but we allow ourselves to feel jealousy.

According to answers.com, jealousy is an emotion, a negative thought or feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, such as a relationship, friendship, or love. Is it healthy or not? Is there a right moment to feel jealous?

Most often, this emotion is a silent killer in every relationship. We dwell on this negative feeling and allow ourselves to do silly things associated with this thought that we regret later on. It’s irritating and painful to be jealous (especially if you suppress it) or be the recipient of it.

And I think if there is assurance and security in a relationship, it helps one to avoid feeling jealous.

*Photo credit to Kemao of deviantart.

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Jul 26

The Missing Rib

I want to share this nice story that I found over DSIM’s blog while doing my entrecard dropping. I think it’s an inspiring story that shares to us that PRIDE and ANGER influences us to make hasty decisions out of impulsiveness. And usually regrets from this decision takes place later on wherein we then realized the importance of one’s worth in our lives when it’s already too late to reunite. Time is truly essential in our lives. Let’s open our hearts and minds and learn from this story.

A girl in love asked her boyfriend…

Girl : Tell me… whom do you love most in this world?
Boy : You, of course!
Girl : In your heart, what am I to you?

Boy : The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, “You are my rib. In the Bible, it was said that God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep; God took one of Adam’s rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life; you’ll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart.”

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while. However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems… their life became mundane…. All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other…The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house… At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, “You don’t love me!”

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, “Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!”

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while…He regretted what he said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up. Before she left the house, “If I’m really not your missing rib, please let me go…She continued, “It is less painful this way… let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners.”

Five years went by….

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly…She had left the country and back… She had married a foreigner and divorced…He felt anguished that she never waited for him. In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn’t bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met… At the airport, a place where there were many reunions and good-byes…He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?
Girl: I’m fine. How about you – have you found your missing rib?
Boy: No.
Girl: I’ll be flying to New York on the next flight.
Boy: I’ll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back… You know my number… Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good-bye… Good-bye…..One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York – in the event that shocked the world (9/11).

Midnight… he lit another cigarette… And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart….He finally knew, she was the missing rib that he had carelessly discarded and thrown away …

Sometimes, people say things in of moments of fury… More often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental…We vent our frustrations 99% at our loved ones…And even though we know that we ought to “think twice and act wisely”, it’s often easier said than done. Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control…. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives…. Tomorrow may never come; give and accept what you have today.

“Men stumble over pebbles, never over mountains.”
- Emilie Cady

*Photo credit to rude_and_reckless of deviantart.

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Jun 28

Trusting Again…

Back in college, I learned that in our infancy stage, we develop TRUST. It’s as simple as the form of crying when we were hungry or peed in our diapers that we get our parents’ attention. And by their loving response of feeding us and of changing our diapers we learn to trust them.

But as we were growing, certain factors has affected our ability to trust people. Especially when we have been hurt, cheated and betrayed in the past that we learn to build a wall within ourselves to protect us from getting hurt again. But as I was watching Bo Sanchez’s preach, I was inspired with his words of encouragement that we need to trust other people again carefully despite our trusting issues.

With that we’ll learn to live our life fully and grow. In reality, people in our lives come and go. And there will always be some people who will betray us, cheat on us and even hurt us again. But there are also good people.

According to Bo, if you don’t trust and risk getting hurt, you won’t received blessings. Learn to open yourself to others, lower your defenses and learn to trust again. Life is a risk. Risking yourself of getting hurt again is the same as risking yourself to be loved again.

*Photo credit to *gabbyd70 of deviantart.

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