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There are some things in life that we wanted but don’t get it. We often think that maybe it’s not for us. But then, there are some things in life that we don’t understand. It leave us feeling confused and puzzled. There’s an urge to want to know the reason why it’s happening and coming up with a solution that everything happens for a reason. We may not get it. But we know God’s plans and knows everything, that is why it is right to say that we entrust everything to Him. Let’s all leave it up to Him and stop figuring out why certain things have happened. We do have a good God, and we know He only wants what’s good for us.

1. Ask yourself – “Is he/she worth all my trouble?” ….You will find that most times, the answer is “NOT a chance”.

2. Do a reality check – “Why do I loathe this person so much that I feel it in my bones?”…This is interesting to do. you may find that there is really no reason why you feel this way. if there is one however, find ways to undo it!

3. DELETE all you contact addresses of him/her – You give those fingers a rest. And you may want to rest your heart. You don’t want to be tachycardic all the time.

3. DO something! Shop, watch a movie, DVD, put the music on… Dance or Sing your heart out…ventilation is great to unload a heavy chest.

4. CRY – and resolve that you won’t cry again…Crying eases the burden off your chest. just don’t overdo it!

5. GET SOME ICE CREAM – it pays to cool that head off and add a little sweetness in your life today… just don’t finish the entire gallon. You will have problems with the weighing scale later and you only have yourself to blame…

6. PUT HIS/HER PIC under the doormat – and stomp on it as often as it pleases you… just stay away from witchcraft or you may just get hooked!

7. PRAY – for him/her and for you….praying eases your heartache and it will bring you closer to Jesus. He will carry you all the way.

8. IGNORE – the best offense is one that will make the other person feel he/she doesn’t exist!

9. SLEEP it OFF! – you will reap all the benefits of a beauty rest.

10. Lastly, Just Continue loathing…..if it makes you feel better that way…one day you will get over the person and when you No Longer MIND… that’s the day you GREW UP!!!! HAPPY GROWING!

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Yes, because there are a lot of other better things to think and thankful about. How can you count your blessings if you are succumb to thinking of the people you don’t like? It would only help you look older and stressful. Think about happy thoughts, of happy things and surely it will help you look blooming, fresh and younger. Thinking about hateful things make you more negative. And negative aura prohibits you from seeing the positive things in life blocking opportunities that knocks at your door. So why stress out, right? Ignore obnoxious people, don’t make them the center of your universe.

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That’s one good question to keep in mind. Some people think that capturing the interest of the person they admire by pretending who they are will still make them happy. As long as they are with the person they like. But how long could they keep up with the pretensions? Living the life that they are expected to do and not what they like to do can seem to be tiring in the long run. Pressure within yourself can set in.

In addition, you are making a fool out of yourself and you are betraying your partner as well.

So be who you are without stepping on other people’s shoes. And that will make you happy.

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Hate is such a strong word. It is an intense feeling of dislike. Sometimes, we hate someone whom we really loved. But shows hatred instead to disguise our love for someone. It injures the hater more than it injures the hated.

But being hated can leave an emotional scar. More often than not, it’s hard to take the word back.

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What makes us happy? Is it the material wealth? The love of people around us? Or the inner happiness?

I once remembered the time when I took my language exam, one of the questions asked by the Kiwi interviewer was, “What is happiness for you?”. I was quite struck with the question and thought quickly.

At that time, I was struggling for my own happiness. I wanted to be happy. But my answer was, “Happiness for me is doing the things that I want without hurting other people.”

Indeed, we can be happy if we want to. We can do the things we want and be happy with that. But can we really be happy if we knew we’ve hurt other people in the process?

As years passed, I realized that happiness doesn’t revolve on material wealth, being adored and loved by the people that mattered to you but to have inner happiness. The former only gives temporary happiness while the latter gives total happiness.

And by achieving inner happiness, we should learn to forgive and love others, even our enemies. It may be hard at first, but through God’s enlightenment and constant sincere prayer, we will achieve it. We will learn to forgive. And when we do, we will achieve the kind of happiness that we longed for.

And because I want to be happy. I forgive those who had wronged me. And I asked for forgiveness to whom I have hurt. Anger and hatred does hinder us from being happy.

Most of us judge other people’s doings and even criticize and talked back against them. We love to talk about other people’s lives which boosts our ego criticizing other people, what a weak personality that is! A hypocritical and self-righteous judgments of others. And remember, if you criticize other people in front of the others, the latter will mostly do the same with you.

“For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” – Matthew 7:2-5

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People say, “Past is past“. It’s history. In Kung Fu Panda, Shifu said, “Yesterday is a history. Tomorrow, a mystery. But today..today is a gift. that’s why it’s called present.” That was one good thought.

Everything happens for a reason and everything that had happened is already in the past. Let us not dwell too much in the past for it may hinder us from moving forward. There are no mistakes in life only lessons. So let our experiences in the past serve as a lesson for each and everyone of us. These lessons will help us to grow and to live our life fully. Remember, no one is perfect. It’s part of our life that we fail sometimes but what matters most is how we stand up again from that fall.

No fret. It’s part of life. Forgive yourself from hurting others and forgive others for hurting you. That way, you’ll be happier and more peaceful with yourself. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. Learn from every experiences that comes your way and don’t forget to have fun. Prayer always make wonders.

Nail In The Fence

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.
When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.
” A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us.“