Category: relationships

Feb 17

Valentine’s Day Story

Here’s another short story I got from facebook. One good story for all who are hopeless romantic and for those who are waiting for their real true love. Reading this had made me fell in love even more with true love. It just prove to show that there are no boundaries when it comes to true love. I hope you’ll enjoy reading this.

One day, a young guy and a young girl fell in love.

But the guy came from a poor family. The girl’s parents weren’t too happy.

So the young man decided not only to court the girl but to court her parents as well. In time, the parents saw that he was a good man and was worthy of their daughter’s hand.

But there was another problem: The man was a soldier. Soon, war broke out and he was being sent overseas for a year.

The week before he left, the man knelt on his knee and asked his lady love, “Will you marry me?” She wiped a tear, said yes, and they were engaged. They agreed that when he got back in one year, they would get married.

But tragedy struck. A few days after he left, the girl had a major vehicular accident. It was a head-on collision.

When she woke up in the hospital, she saw her father and mother crying. Immediately, she knew there was something wrong.

She later found out that she suffered brain injury. The part of her brain that controlled her face muscles was damaged. Her once lovely face was now disfigured. She cried as she saw herself in the mirror. “Yesterday, I was beautiful. Today, I’m a monster.” Her body was also covered with so many ugly wounds.

Right there and then, she decided to release her fiancé from their promise. She knew he wouldn’t want her anymore. She would forget about him and never see him again.

For one year, the soldier wrote many letters—but she wouldn’t answer. He phoned her many times but she wouldn’t return her calls.

But after one year, the mother walked into her room and announced, “He’s back from the war.”

The girl shouted, “No! Please don’t tell him about me. Don’t tell him I’m here!”

The mother said, “He’s getting married,” and handed her a wedding invitation.

The girl’s heart sank. She knew she still loved him—but she had to forget him now.

With great sadness, she opened the wedding invitation.

And then she saw her name on it!

Confused, she asked, “What is this?”

That was when the young man entered her room with a bouquet of flowers. He knelt beside her and asked, “Will you marry me?”

The girl covered her face with her hands and said, “I’m ugly!”

The man said, “Without your permission, your mother sent me your photos. When I saw your photos, I realized that nothing has changed. You’re still the person I fell in love. You’re still as beautiful as ever. Because I love you!”

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Jan 25

Loving Still Despite the Pain

Is loving always equals to pain? How can such an individual still capable of loving someone even he/she knows that there wouldn’t be any chance at all. That even by loving him/her still will result to more pain. Pain that resulted to hearing things that he/she is moving on, meeting and seeing other people. While you on the other hand, is still stuck loving him/her.

Is it just psychological? Or is it because you truly love the person?

It’s really painful loving someone you can’t have even though you knew it’s already over, isn’t it?

Just a thought…

*Photo credited by GeorgiaPeaches of deviantart.

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Jan 18

Is Looking at Others a Form of Adultery?


*Photo credited to ValentinaKallias of deviantart.

A discussion between two married man and a single man took place while they were on duty. They were discussing and asking whether looking at another woman is already a sin in the bible. Isn’t it wrong to admire and just to look at other woman when you are married? I began to think and remembered what I read in the bible about adultery. Jesus said in Matthew 5:28, “Anyone who looks at a woman with the intentions of possessing her has in fact already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Therefore I conclude that fantasizing is in fact a form of adultery but just merely looking at other woman without any intentions of possessing nor fantasizing is just fine. Fantasizing can lead to increase dissatisfaction to your wife which may lead to harming your marriage.

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Nov 30

Is It Really Necessary?

After breaking up and not communicating for months, is it really necessary for the other party to tell his/her ex that he’s going to search for someone who can love him unconditionally? Out of the blue, after not hearing from each other, you suddenly heard him/her say this. I find it stupid and irrelevant. I mean, what’s the point? You have already broken up and of course you both knew this is possible to happen. That perhaps one of you may find and look for a new love.

Is this just another way of hurting you, getting your attention or perhaps the fact that it’s really over between you two. What do you think?

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Nov 05

To Greet or Not To Greet…

After breaking up, is it considered ethical to greet your ex on his/her birthday? Even if you still have grudges in him/her?

You might think that with greeting your ex, you are giving him an impression that you still like him/her and wants him/her back. With that in mind, you want to avoid that connotion thus thinking that it’s better not to greet. But will your ex think that it seemed you don’t care at all? Thinking that it seemed like you two didn’t have any history at all?

Hmm…just a thought.

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Sep 18

Minding Your Own Business

It is rude for people to meddle with other couple’s problems, especially when it is about the couple’s relationship. Confidants neither don’t have the right to meddle and to criticize the other party on why the relationship didn’t work. Friends are there to listen and not to judge.

There is this girl who has a romantic interest in a particular guy. This guy got hurt from his long time girlfriend and seeks comfort and shares his concerns with this girl friend. The girl friend knew all about the couple’s problem. The girlfriend on the other hand, tried hard to reconcile with the guy even if it meant being desperate and low. After several months, even after the break up, the ex couple still remained their lines of communication open. This got the girl friend pissed and started making personal attacks on the ex girlfriend online.

With the scenario above, does the girl friend had any right to meddle with the ex couple’s problem? Whatever problem this couple had, she should stay away from it. She doesn’t have any right or whatsoever to judge the ex girlfriend, or to even annoy her  and make her jealous because in the first place, the girl friend never had him as her boyfriend.

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Aug 24

The Art of Letting Go

Letting_Go_by_TheMadScientist

Everybody says around you that you have to let go to safeguard yourself from further pain. But the truth is, it’s hard to let go. Though our mind tells us to, but our heart still holds on. It would really take time for acceptance that things has changed and that it’s time to let go. So here’s a meaningful message about letting go I read online. I hope this would enlighten each and everyone of us.

Letting go is a subject all of us want to deny talking about. Nobody with a sound judgment likes to have all the days work listening to some depressing story.

Yet one has to view that it’s a way of refreshing a battered core that in many ways may have reach a threshold of defiance.

Every reason can be put to challenge as you go to this process.
The head may be too reasonable to appreciate it, but the heart takes all the gamble in reasoning. Which put us to some perspective that the mind cannot choose what the heart wants to feel.

If this happen then letting go has its dilemma for one very simple reason! HOPE. The hoping part is the one killing all romantics. Loving without hoping is dull.

It’s by far the most powerful tool Pandora’s box have unleash to all would-be lovers.It illuminates a dark pathway of opportunities , with so much extended questions.

There will always be a big gap that cannot be undone. The aches that comes with it, and the effort of holding on to it. The big question arises if one is ready to give up.

Pretty sure letting go is never easy, it takes courage and an unbelievable amount of sacrifice.Knowing that after doing it, you’ll probably hurt yourself more and at the same time the gift of healing by the advances you may gain.

It’s a matter of choice..of weighing the consequences and with this realization comes another level of maturity.There is a time for everything, and letting go has its own duration.The art of letting go is simply a matter of choice and emerging from the experience though maybe broken, BUT full of undying hope and picking up the lessons learned.
It is a constant cycle evolving due to different circumstances that comes with every single human being .

With every pain you are being put into a corner wherein you cannot seem to find an exit, and once you do, you let go. tears, sadness and heart aches in the meantime.

And when you are ready, you embrace the future and look forward to a new beginning.

*Photo credit to TheMadScientist of deviantart.

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Aug 17

Soulmates

Do you believe in soulmates? How do you know who your soulmate is? Here’s what I read about soulmates I found online.  Have you found yours?

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master”

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Aug 10

50 Hurting Experience You Get From Loving

Who said loving is all a bed of roses? I think when you surrender yourself to love, it also means you are risking yourself to getting hurt. Endurng the pain may sometimes helps you love wiser and unconditionally. So here are some things you get from loving that I got from Simple Life Freak.

1. Letting go of a person you’ve just learned to love
2. Reminiscing the good times you shared together
3. Shielding your heart to love somebody
4. Trying to hide what you really feel
5. Trying to hide the tears that involuntarily fall from your eyes
6. Loving a person too much
7. Giving up someone you never thought of giving up
8. Having the right love at the wrong time
9. Taking the risk to fall in love again
10. Hiding your relationship from someone else
11. Controlling your feelings to avoid hurting a friend
12. Thinking of him/her every waking and sleeping moment knowing all the while that he/she never even thinks a single thought of you…
13. Letting go, because everytime you see the person, you only fall deeper
14. Holding back only to find out when it’s too late, you both felt the same way, but were only scared to lose each other so much that you didn’t let the feelings out
15. Falling in love with someone you didn’t mean to fall in love with
16. Finding the perfect guy/girl…with only one problem— he/she doesn’t love you…the way you want him/her to…
17. Helping the one you love “court” your friend / helping your friend “court” the one you love
18. Seeing the one you love crying for someone else
19. Waiting also hurts like hell
20. Having to hear “… I’ve met someone”
21. Agreeing to his/her wish to ‘just be friends’.
22. Asking his/her freedom back bcoz ‘he’d/she’d be happier with him/her’
23. Asking you to ‘forget that everything happened’ and be ‘normal’ friends again.
24. Hearing that you’re treated as a little bro/sis (ouch!)
25. Sharing his/her future plans for the guy/girl with you.
26. You stopped being friends bcoz his gf/her bf asked him/her to.
27. Being denied in front of people.
28. Telling you lies where he’d/she’d been when actually, he/she was with a ‘new friend’ or an ‘old flame’ (whew!)
29. He/she told you he’d/she’d be leaving you to return to his/her ex? The one he/she left for you!
30. Breaking someone’s heart
31. Fighting for that one thing that would make you happy that is, holding on to a person who can not guarantee you his/her commitment unless he/she fix himself/herself…then, you are left hanging for the moment…then he/she says, time will tell… ang labo lang niya…but you still decided to hope in him/her and trust him/her
32. Pretending you’re OK when inside you’re dying…
33. Pretending to be strong…. and recognizing your weakness
34. Lying in bed each night, thinking of that special person you can never have…
35. Being with someone you can’t actually love…
36. Pretending you don’t love a person whom you actually love…
37. Being in love…
38. Letting go even if you really don’t want to… having no right to say you are hurting because it was your decision
39. Seeing the person you love hurt because of you… and not being able to help that person…
40. Having the courage to say “I LOVE YOU” to the person you love and finding out afterwards that things will never be the same again when he/she doesn’t treat you with the same closeness as before
41. Having to face the fact that someone is capable of completely destroying the wall that you have set for yourself, leaving you weak and vulnerable
42. Admitting that you love someone despite his/her imperfections
43. Finding out that the more you try to hate him/her, the more you end up loving him/her, perhaps even more than before
44. Realizing how stupid your mistakes were that led to your break-up.
45. The thought that this guy/girl, used to really love you and you loved him/her as well but you didn’t give enough and he/she gave up on you
46. Sharing the one you love with SOMEBODY else…..”
47. Making a promise….and realizing that when the time has come for that promise to be delivered….the commitment is no longer there…
48. Violating your parents’ rules for that someone that you love.
49. Leaving your long-time friends because the one you love cannot accept them.
50. The hardest thing about love – believing it

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Jul 26

The Missing Rib

I want to share this nice story that I found over DSIM‘s blog while doing my entrecard dropping. I think it’s an inspiring story that shares to us that PRIDE and ANGER influences us to make hasty decisions out of impulsiveness. And usually regrets from this decision takes place later on wherein we then realized the importance of one’s worth in our lives when it’s already too late to reunite. Time is truly essential in our lives. Let’s open our hearts and minds and learn from this story.

A girl in love asked her boyfriend…

Girl : Tell me… whom do you love most in this world?
Boy : You, of course!
Girl : In your heart, what am I to you?

Boy : The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, “You are my rib. In the Bible, it was said that God saw that Adam was lonely, during his sleep; God took one of Adam’s rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life; you’ll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart.”

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while. However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems… their life became mundane…. All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other…The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house… At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, “You don’t love me!”

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, “Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!”

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while…He regretted what he said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up. Before she left the house, “If I’m really not your missing rib, please let me go…She continued, “It is less painful this way… let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners.”

Five years went by….

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly…She had left the country and back… She had married a foreigner and divorced…He felt anguished that she never waited for him. In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn’t bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met… At the airport, a place where there were many reunions and good-byes…He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?
Girl: I’m fine. How about you – have you found your missing rib?
Boy: No.
Girl: I’ll be flying to New York on the next flight.
Boy: I’ll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back… You know my number… Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good-bye… Good-bye…..One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York – in the event that shocked the world (9/11).

Midnight… he lit another cigarette… And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart….He finally knew, she was the missing rib that he had carelessly discarded and thrown away …

Sometimes, people say things in of moments of fury… More often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental…We vent our frustrations 99% at our loved ones…And even though we know that we ought to “think twice and act wisely”, it’s often easier said than done. Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control…. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives…. Tomorrow may never come; give and accept what you have today.

“Men stumble over pebbles, never over mountains.”
- Emilie Cady

*Photo credit to rude_and_reckless of deviantart.

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